Thursday, July 31, 2008
Transition Back to Work
My number one goal is to still be a full-time Mom to Bo. I still want to spend as much time as I can with him as he is my number one priority -- job or no job.
I also do not want to outsource so much that it doesn't make sense for me to work. Luckily, I think it would take a lot of outsourcing to make my pay become negative. For a frame of reference -- we will be spending $200 a month on childcare which will come off the top of my salary. So we can definitely afford to outsource a few more things...
Here are my ideas to make the transition easier.
1. Hire someone to do a thorough cleaning every two weeks.
Cost - $100 a month.
Perks - While I'll still have to straighten everything every day I can leave the big stuff -- like the toilets and baseboards to someone else. It will also give me more time with Bo as when I am home I can focus more on him and less on cleaning the toilet. If you know me, you know I'm totally anal so house cleanliness is a big source of stress for me.
Negatives - Having someone else in my house. The thought that people will look down on me for doing this. My in-laws aren't exactly ones to outsource -- anything, ever -- but then again my MIL stayed home when she had small children.
2. Only cook three times a week - making enough for two nights with each meal and eating out the other night.
Cost - No extra cost.
Perks - Instead of cooking 6 meals a week I'll only cook three and then we will eat leftovers on the other night.
Negatives - That means eating leftovers 3 nights a week.
3. Do prep work and online class work after Bo is in bed. (I know there is going to be a ton more work than I can do in the amount of time I have. In the past I've gone in early but now that really isn't an option.)
Cost - No extra cost.
Perks - Quiet time to work when the school is empty or the house is peaceful.
Negatives - No down time. No time to spend with Mike. Later bedtime. Less sleep.
What do you think of these ideas? Do you have any ideas that might help me? Those of you out there that are working moms, how do you make this work? Any and all suggestions appreciated.
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Conflicted
Bo enjoys chewing on a squeaky frog while Grammie opens her birthday gifts. He also enjoyed playing the paper. We had just taken his onsie off because it was covered in drool. Seriously, the boy is a fountain.Needless to say, I'm feeling conflicted on many different levels right now. It's a lovely state of mind...
Assvice appreciated and always welcome.
Monday, July 28, 2008
New Addy!!
Now you can access my blog through www.stickyfeet2.com or you can still come the old way too. It's up to you!
Family Poolside Picnic
We headed up to Mike's parents on Friday morning. For the most part, Bo handles traveling really well. Considering we always seem to be going somewhere on the weekends it's no wonder that he is pretty well adjusted. He does fine in the car, eats out well, and is great when we are out running errands. He is generally a happy baby. The Gods have blessed me.
Unfortunately though, Bo did have some sleep issues this weekend. He went down for the night fine but then the phone rang about 8:30 and there was a phone in his room. Apparently this disturbed him quite a bit because he was inconsolable. We ended up getting him back up (which I never do!) and then he finally went down at 10:30. Ugh! He was up early on Saturday -- about 6 and then went down fine again Saturday night but was up from 10:30-12. Last night he slept 13 hours in his own bed. Unfortunately, I think we have a little guy who prefers his own crib... ugh! That is going make our constant motion a lot more difficult!
On a positive note, he showed off his amazing crawling skills and ate like a champ. I really can't believe the amount of food this little guy can ingest...
The highlight of the weekend was Saturday evening when Mike's Mom's family gathered for a poolside picnic. Bo splashed in the water and even kicked himself around in his inflatable crab. He was passed to various family members and seemed happy to be held by anyone! He was very intrigued by Uncle Dan's mustache!
Mike's Grandpa, Mike's two uncles, Mike and Bo all pose for a picture poolside - 4 generations of Anderson Men. It was fun having the family together for a poolside picnic.
Mike, Bo and Jamie (me) enjoyed time in the pool. (I know this isn't the best picture of me but I just love Bo's expression!)
After the picnic (and Bo was in bed) we all gathered in the basement to watch slides of Mike's mom and her brothers growing up while we enjoyed a trio of peach desserts!
We capped off the weekend yesterday with the long drive home and working our tails off so that everything was under control at our house (meaning laundry, unpacking, dishes, etc.) because today is the official return to work with my first two online classes and it's my mom's birthday so we will be having a birthday celebration this evening. Luckily for me, Mom wanted to watch Bo for a few hours (please keep your fingers crossed that her back holds out!) while I work. Which means my self-imposed lunch break is over and it's back to work... Ugh.
Friday, July 25, 2008
Ch..Ch..Ch.. Changes (Continued)
Bo keeps evolving and changing -- I can't believe how much he is growing. He really is turning into a little man.
The last month feels like a whirlwind of growth and new challenges for our little guy. He quickly went from sitting to crawling and now he is starting to pull up. He's everywhere and into everything so baby proofing is essential. I have a feeling we have an early walker on our hands!
Doesn't he look like he knows that he isn't suppose to be doing that? So mischievous. Unfortunately, our fireplace is right in the main living area of our house. Good thing I'm never more than a few feet away -- I spend a lot of my time redirecting him away from the fireplace and moving hazards these days.
I spent yesterday afternoon packing up some of his baby toys (like the play gym that he doesn't use anymore). Before long it will be time to pack up the exersaucer and jumperoo. And he definitely isn't staying on the blankets I spread on the floor for him anymore! His biggest motivation to crawl is to chase after the cats... :)
It's strange but Maddie has been the cat that is the most taken with Bo. None of them have issues with him but Maddie is the one who plays with him and lets him chase, pet, and hug her. For some reason I thought it would be Lincoln. Here they are in mid-battle -- Bo's about to attack!When people say that having a child changes everything -- they aren't kidding. I really do feel like so much in my life has changed in the last 8 months -- some due to Bo, some due to other circumstances -- but life really is different. Babies change everything from relationships to values.
One thing is for certain -- life definitely isn't stagnant when there is a baby in the picture. While sometimes I wish he was still a little baby I'm thrilled by all of the changes and growth I see each day. He changes so quickly that sometimes I have a hard time keeping up. How can it be that just a few weeks ago he just rolled from place to place and now he's crawling all over? How can it be that just a few weeks ago he was eating only purees and now he loves little chunks of solid food? How can it be that this baby that was in my belly this time last year has changed everything so much?
Bo is crawling after Maddie but I distracted him with the camera. I can't believe he is 8 months old. Time really does fly.
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Ch..Ch..Ch..Changes...
Part 1: Blog ChangesPart 2: Life Changes
Wednesday, July 23, 2008
Wordless Wednesday: Laughing
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
These are a few of my favorite things...
Instead of sharing a recipe, I thought I would share with you some of my more recent finds that I love.
1. Chocolate Cake in 5 minutes - One of my friends originally sent me the link to this and then it was featured on Slashfood yesterday! I've already tried several experiments with it -- adding raspberry syrup, vanilla, and mocha. The cake is a little dense so I'm trying to perfect that as well... If anyone else out there wants to work on tweaks for this cake I'd love to hear your results. I'll do a post when I figure out the perfect tweaks! I love that it's small and fast when I need a sweet treat!
2. Busy Body
3. Google Reader - I've been an avid Bloglines fan for years but I recently became interested in what all the fuss is about when it comes to Google Reader. Now I get it. I swear I can read all of my blogs about a million times faster and I can do it with one finger (just hit the spacebar) which makes it a lot faster and easier to do while holding a little one. I think I've been converted.
4. Sony HandyCam
5. Pottery Barn's A to Z crib sheet - I bought the fitted crib sheet for Bo and I absolutely love it. It looks cute in his room and I'm hoping that all of the cute pictures and letters will make him smarter. ;)
Monday, July 21, 2008
Bo's First Babysitter
Luckily, a yearbook girl came to the rescue. (You may remember Rachel, she was one of the beautiful young women I cooked for on Prom night.) Rachel was one of my yearbook editors this past year and valedictorian. (Only the best for my baby!!) Not to mention one of my favorite yearbook girls, a sweetie, someone who I totally trust, and well... she's also a bit stubborn but I don't hold that against her. ;)
Rachel holds Bo as we get ready to head out the door. Even though I was nervous about the whole situation I knew Rachel and Bo would do well together.
Rachel came over about 2 and I had typed instructions for her. (I know, I know. I'm anal and it was my first time leaving him so cut me a little slack!). We stuck around for a little bit and then left so she could be the one to put him down for his nap.
We really didn't need to leave quite that early but I didn't want to have her come while he was asleep. I thought that would definitely scar the child for life. :) We were able to take our time driving to our destination and stopped and bought fresh corn and two watermelons from produce stands. We also stopped and bought Bo a toy at one of the few stores in the town we visited.
My mom came over and helped Rachel put Bo to bed (also a first for us -- we've never been away from him at bedtime) and Bo did really well! Mom said that Rachel was great with with him and he seemed to really like her.
Rachel went home when Bo went to sleep about 7:30 and my mom read her book at our house until we returned home about 10:30.
So what did Mike and I do with an afternoon and evening of freedom? Oh, you're thinking a date -- romantic dinner, movie, the works?
Wow, you're funny. :)
We judged a pageant.
The girl on the left is the new queen. What do you think?? Did we do okay? :)
Friday, July 18, 2008
Memories: Bo Takes a Bath
I've spent the morning doing random errands around the house, writing thank you notes, preparing packages to mail, starting laundry, and watching cute video clips of Bo. I'm amazed by how quickly he is changing! Even watching a clip from a month ago he seems like a totally different little boy. I think this is why the powers that be give us infants -- so we can change and grow as they do!
Below is a video of Bo taking a bath in the sink from June. Already he can do so much more than he is doing here. I have a feeling you'll be seeing more video clips here at Chez Sticky Feet. You'll just have to learn to ignore the crazy mom chatting in the background!
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
Tuesday, July 15, 2008
Tuesdays With Dorie: Chocolate Pudding Tarts
The recipe is for a rich, creamy, velvety chocolate pudding that is prepared in a food processor. I wanted a fun twist so I decided to make tarts and used cookie dough as my tart base.
I took a muffin tin, flipped it over and sprayed it generously with cooking spray. I then put rounds of dough on top of each muffin tin.
I baked the tarts for about 11 minutes in a 350 degree oven. While they were baking I tackled Dorie's chocolate pudding. It was a simple recipe to follow.
I used both my big and my little Cuisinart while making this recipe. The baby Cuisinart blending the dry ingredients while the mama Cuisinart blended the wet ingredients. Don't they look cute side by side?
Here are the eggs and a little bit of sugar preparing to go for a whirl.
I only used 4 oz of bittersweet chocolate instead of the 5 oz the recipe calls for. I didn't realize the bar I purchased was only 4 oz until I was home and in the process of making the recipe. Bo was taking a nap so there was no chance of a quick run to the store. I figured it would be just as good with only 4 oz and I found it to still be quite rich and chocolaty.
I was amazed at the frothiness of the pudding. I think this may be part of the secret that makes it so yummy.
They were delicious and even received a rave review from Mike, who isn't a fan of pudding!
Monday, July 14, 2008
Life After Infertility
I'm sure those of you who are fertile beyond all repair (my version of FUBAR) are rolling your eyes right now. But seriously, this is a big step for me. Two years ago, a pregnancy announcement would have me curled into a ball on the couch for the rest of the day. A year ago, when I was pregnant, I dealt with it more rationally, but I was still very bitter about the cards that infertility dealt me.
Recently, two people I know in real life (I never really had an issue with my online friends pregnancies -- probably because they were hard fought after a battle with infertility -- ya know, the reason we became friends online to begin with!) announced February due dates. And honestly, I am happy for them. My gut reaction is to warn them to go to the movies, go out to dinner, read books, sleep, and relax as much as possible, but I don't have any feelings of ill-will toward them.
What's changed? Well, obviously, I have Bo. I now know both the joys and the hardships that parenting holds. I also have a more realistic view of pregnancy, childbirth, and mothering.
I've also been watching a lot of John and Kate Plus Eight in the evenings with Mike. I can't even begin to tell you the number of times that show makes me say, "Are you sure we don't just want 1?"
I guess the most phenomenal change is that I no longer feel like I am missing out on this amazing experience that everyone else gets to have and that seems to happen to them so easily...
I battled infertility and I won.
I am a mom. I have a baby. I am complete.
***I just have to hope that my new found peace doesn't leave when I begin my battle with secondary infertility -- coming this January (barring any unforeseen events) to a blog near you.
Friday, July 11, 2008
Overwhelmed and Organized
Maybe it's the fact that Bo more mobile and active combined with messy mealtimes. Maybe it's my fears about my upcoming stint in online teaching. Maybe it's the fact that Mike went back to work after being home for 10 days and we are back in the real world. Maybe it's that my mom threw out her back so she hasn't been around as much and we've been going over there more. Maybe it's that I feel separated from the real world in my "housewife" capacity and it's driving me slightly nuts (I never intended to be a housewife in any capacity...). Maybe it's the constant spin-cycle in my head that keeps over analyzing everything. Maybe it's the fact that I feel we need to hire a gardener as the weeds in our beautiful flower garden are over-flowing and I don't want to confine Bo to the hot stroller while I tackle it. Maybe it's my underlying thoughts that something big is going to happen soon -- even though I can't pinpoint exactly what the "big" thing may be.
Honestly, I'm not really sure. It's probably a combination of all of those things. I feel like I have a to-do list that is a million miles long and I never manage to accomplish everything I want to. I feel like if I had one day, from 8-5, sans baby, I could accomplish a million things. But if I had that day, I'd probably just want to sleep...
This is going to sound totally ridiculous, but last night, after we had Bo in bed, Mike and I worked on organizing the kitchen. Granted, my kitchen is naturally more organized than most (gotta love two anal retentive personalities living together...) but since Bo was born we haven't really taken the time to go through things on a consistent basis. We threw out old food and started a pile of kitchen goodies that we never use to take the to consignment shop. Sure, we have more to do, but it felt good to do something productive for two hours. And to be able to do it while chatting with Mike and without being interrupted by a baby or numerous other annoyances.
I've always been the type who cleans and organizes when they are feeling overwhelmed. I guess organization is one thing that I can control when other things seem to be outside of my control.
At least I'll know exactly where to put the skillet... ;)
Thursday, July 10, 2008
Wordle
I copied in text from the last month of the blog. The bigger words are the ones that are used the most. I guess you can see where certain people rank, huh?? ;)
Make your own at wordle.net.
Wednesday, July 9, 2008
Tuesday, July 8, 2008
The Evolving Story of Bo Food
This is Bo at lunch time today. He is attempting to feed himself little chunks of plum. I didn't have my flash and my camera was on AV mode for this shot, so it isn't the greatest, but you can clearly see how messy feeding Bo is these days. Instead of sharing with you the trials and tribulations of a blueberry pie, I thought maybe you could help me out with some advice regarding Bo's ever evolving feedings.
My Questions:
1. What did your little one eat when they first started to self-feed?
2. What types of fruits and veggies did they enjoy?
3. How did you prepare it?
4. Were you serving breakfast, lunch, and dinner? What about snacks?
At this point, I'm open to anything and I think Bo is too!
You see, just when I think I really have a handle on feeding Bo, he starts changing again. Over the past few weeks we've started to introduce finger foods, which he really seems to be enjoying. He will now eat little chunks of soft food like avocado, banana, plum, apricot, etc.
On my birthday, we went out for supper and he ate little flakes of fish, bits of roll, and even a few pieces of shredded cheese from my salad. With all four of his teeth and a healthy appetite, it is apparent that he is ready for more solid foods.
We still have purees in the freezer, but I don't think I'll be making any more. In a way this makes me sad! I took such pride in Bo's purees and now the puree stage is almost over. How quickly time flies...
Of course, I'm worried (when am I not?) and I want to make sure that what I am feeding Bo will be enough nutrition to keep him healthy and growing strong. Bo is still nursing, 4 times a day, so I know he is at least obtaining some nutrition from milk but I also want to make sure that I keep introducing new foods in an attempt to avoid picky-eater syndrome. I'm realistic that once he is a bit older this will probably be difficult to avoid, but I'm hopeful.
*Quick Product Plug*
One of my birthday gifts was a gift card to Babies R Us. I ordered several Bumkins bibs with it this morning. I bought one to try a few weeks ago and I love them!!
Monday, July 7, 2008
Book Review: Lock and Key by Sarah Dessen
A little over a week ago Mandy left Lock and Key by Sarah Dessen on my kitchen counter. We've read all of her books and she is a great young adult author. Her books are quick, easy reads that really speak to the reader. Dessen has an uncanny ability to make every reader feel like she is speaking directly to them. It's amazing.
Only a few pages into the book it was evident that there is an infertility sub-plot. The main character's sister, Cora, is infertile. And while many wouldn't have picked up on it quite as quickly as I did it, it did add a unique element to a young adult book.
My favorite scene involves Cora sitting on the floor of her sister's closet, holding her dog while she is waiting for her husband's family to arrive for Thanksgiving dinner. It starts on pg. 276 and here is a small excerpt -
Saturday, July 5, 2008
The Best Gift
Bo gave me a wonderful gift for my birthday! He started crawling!
We were all thrilled by Bo's new ability and he's been crawling around all morning. It definitely wears him out. He didn't fuss a bit when I put him down for his nap a few minutes ago!
Bo crawling was definitely the highlight of the day and was my best gift. On my birthday last year I was exactly 20 weeks pregnant. It's hard to believe how much life can change in a year -- now I have a little boy who crawls!!
Bo playing on the 4th. Notice his sleeve - it says "Baby's First 4th". The front of the shirt says "Little Firecracker." I've always been called Firecracker so I thought the shirt was definitely appropriate for our little guy!By now you've probably figured out that I decided not to go to the wedding in Pennsylvania. While I wish I was there right now, I know that there will be plenty of time to travel in the future. Right now my main focus has to be Bo and leaving Bo at this stage of the game wasn't an option and taking him with would have been rough. It's been a good week at home instead. In many regards I've had a birthday week. Mike has been off all week and we've visited with many friends and family, worked around our house and my mom's, and enjoyed spending time together. It's been wonderful. I have lots of other pictures to share from the past week and all of the fun we've had but for now, I'll leave you with my toes...
I think Mandy has mostly forgiven me for not going to Pennsylvania. She made sure that even my toes were patriotic for my birthday by helping me celebrate with a pedicure a bit early.
Wednesday, July 2, 2008
Tuesday, July 1, 2008
Tuesdays with Dorie: Apple Cheddar Scones
This week's Tuesdays with Dorie recipe was Apple Cheddar Scones from pg. 32 of Baking: From My Home To Yours by Dorie Greenspan. This weeks recipe was selected by Karina at The Floured Apron. (You can find the full recipe by clicking the link or by purchasing the cookbook which is currently on sale at Amazon.)
I have to admit, I wasn't thrilled that this was the recipe selected. It seems like a fall recipe to me -- with cold apple cider being one of the key ingredients.
On Thursday evening, I made these as part of our dinner. The first step was to mix the liquid ingredients together. I couldn't find apple cider anywhere so I substituted with apple juice. I also had to buy a ginormous carton of buttermilk for these so if you have any good recipes that take buttermilk I'd love to hear about them.
After I mixed the wet ingredients in one bowl I mixed the dry ingredients in a separate bowl. One of these ingredients was cornmeal, which really made the scones in my opinion. The cornmeal gave the finished scone a lot of texture and flavor.
Probably because I live in the middle of bo-funk nowhere, I couldn't find dried apples. Except for the little Gerber ones for babies. So instead I used fresh apple. Honestly, I think it was probably better with the fresh apple than it would have been with dried.
I combined the wet and dry ingredients and used my whisk as a pastry blender to make the dough. Then I folded in the apple and grated cheddar cheese.
I scooped the dough into individual mounds and put them on the parchment paper to bake.
And the end result was a very rustic, fall-looking and tasting, apple cheddar scone.
I really liked the scones. Mike wasn't a big fan. He says he's never liked scones. I think if I make them again (in the fall) and call them biscuits, he'll lap it up. But this was not a part of our meal, it was just something I gave him to try after dinner. :( My mom liked them though and so did I. They have a wonderful texture from the apple and cornmeal and were great cold the next morning for breakfast.













