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Bo cuddles his special bear "Cinnamon" while fussing about something that I can't even remember.
There is no doubt about it - my little guy is on the cusp of being two and has developed his own demanding personality. Luckily, I love him so much that even when he is trying my patience completely I still find him completely adorable. However, I refuse to be the parent with "that child".
You've met "that child". He never listens. Doesn't pay attention. Isn't disciplined. And pretty much runs around like a chicken with his head cut off most of the time. Yep, that totally isn't going to fly when Mommy is around.
Bo reacts differently to different people. He knows what I will allow and rarely tests my limits. Same with my mom. However, people that he doesn't see as often seem to bring out the worst in him. He'll throw a fit and absolutely refuse to do whatever it is we expect of him -- be that sit in his chair or have his diaper changed. If he doesn't get his way, he'll scream and throw a tantrum like a banshee. It is not pretty.
Needless to say, I know that with the girls pending arrival there is going to be a lot more reason for tantrums, so I've been trying to prepare myself. I'm re-reading Toddlerwise
(and Babywise
for the girls). I've emailed several of my close blog friends to ask them how they are dealing with discipline with their children who are close in age to Bo. I'm trying my best to stay firm, consistent, and yet make sure he knows that he is unconditionally loved.
(and Babywise for the girls). I've emailed several of my close blog friends to ask them how they are dealing with discipline with their children who are close in age to Bo. I'm trying my best to stay firm, consistent, and yet make sure he knows that he is unconditionally loved. It's a lot more difficult than it sounds.
Tell me about your discipline philosophy. How do you deal with tantrums? What advice do you have for me as my little guy approaches his second birthday? Are there any books about this stage of parenting that you would recommend?
6 comments:
Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood: Practical Parenting from Birth to Six Years was recommended to me by a friend. Changed my life! I have two boys, ages 3 and 22 months.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1930429002
With my Jillian we started the "naughty corner" when she was almost 2. We made her stand there for 2 minutes (not facing the wall though) and it really didn't take long for her to get what it was all about and to want to stay out of the corner.
I'm just glad to know I'm not the only one who has trouble. I just checked out some books from the library, I'll let you know if they are any good.
We use time out, but after she hit two she hasn't needed them as often as she did leading up to the age of 2.
Now, when A has a non-stop crying fit or just being overly emotional, I simply put her in her room to have a "moment." Once her moment is over or I feel it has been long enough she comes out, we have a talk, hugs, kisses, and I'm sorrys.
Oh wow, I also do all I can to avoid having "that" kid. I have certain rules that are non-negotiable. I will say that I think I was a little hard on my oldest because I guess I felt like I had to prove that I was/could be a good and effective parent. Now that #3 is hitting the tantrum stage, I still do not tolerate it(meaning I don't give in), but I also realize that he's still pretty little and ignoring the behavior or trying to figure out what else could be going on to cause it is about the best way to deal with it. I sometimes put him in time-out, but more to get used to the idea of the process rather than actually enforcing a punishment. I think being consistent with expectations rather than with punishments is the best way to parent (if that even makes any sense)! At least their first tantrums can be sort of cute. ;)
So I don't know much about parenting - yet - but like you, we are expecting twins! Congrats on being 37 weeks 6 days - so close!! We are 29 weeks :-)
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